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Be in S.H.A.P.E.

What are you doing to Be in SHAPE?

So often, women are busy caring for everyone: children, husband, parents, and co-workers among others that they forget to take care of themselves. They often develop that superwomen complex.  "A woman with a Superwoman Complex constantly needs to prove that she is smart, secure, strong and self-sufficient as defined by Urban Dictionary."  As we approach the holiday season, it is time that you slow down and change things in your life.

An Acquaintance Name Anger

 
I recently meet up with an old acquaintance name anger. He was self righteous, defensive and cantankerous. His justification for his negative attitude was that he was misunderstood. He stressed that he could not get a break, everyone was out to get him.  He cited problems at work, at home and even in his social network.  I quietly listened to him for a while, and then I spoke softly. I suggested that he calm down, talk slowly, think before he act. Then I continued:  People get angry for numerous reasons.

Hold fast to your dream

Dreams
Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.

Langston Hughes
In these challenging times, we must hold on to our dreams.  We must hold on to possibilities of a better day, a brighter tomorrow.  Moreover, never allow others to steal you ability to dream.  The naysayers will discredit your dreams.  They will fill that space with doubt and fear. To stay focus:  Think it and ink it!

Toss Your Worries


It is almost Friday!  Perhaps it was a week of deadlines, disappointments or surprises.  It is time to relax, release and recharge.  This weekend, do something fun.  Lose yourself in child's play.  If the weather permits, spend time outside.  Go for a walk, smell the flowers, do some yard work or go fly a kite! 
 
"Go fly a kite and tie your troubles to the tail
They'll be blown away by a merry gale,
Go fly a kite and toss your worries to the wind

Sticks, Stones and Bones

Stop!  Think Before You Speak:  Words Can Hurt
Ugly, fatso, stupid, fag, nappy, black, nerd, weird, bad, lazy, crybaby, dummy, loser, moron, sissy, chicken, etc.  What do these words have in common?  They are small words, with big implications.  They hurt!  Children were taught, “Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt.” However, they can surely break hearts.  The truth is, harsh and mean spirited words can be just as deadly to our self esteem as weapons drawn against us.

SMILE is more than an Upside Frown

A Smile is more than an Upside Down Frown

Kirt Franklin song I SMILE is so uplifting.  It speaks to adapting and working through our situations.  Our attitude is everything.  So often we get stuck because we cannot see a way out. We waddle in self pit and self doubt rather than shifting our position and pulling our feet up; the first step to getting out of a sticky situation.  Secondly, we need to change our (shoes) thinking.  Thirdly, try a different (shoe) strategy.  Finally, We smile.

Coping with Grief

Coping with Grief
Do not grieve, for I am not there, the poet encourages us to not stand by our loved ones grave and grieve.  However grieve we must.  We grieve the loss of the person. We grieve for the things they left undone.   We grieve for the glorious times we shared, then we grieve for ourselves. 
Losing someone you love is very difficult. Often times it opens up wounds that were scabbed over long ago, then past hurt and pain comes rushing back to the surface and the wound is torn open like it happened yesterday.