What are you doing to Be in SHAPE?
So often, women are busy caring for everyone: children, husband, parents,
and co-workers among others that they forget to take care of themselves. They
often develop that superwomen complex. "A woman with
a Superwoman Complex constantly needs to prove that she is smart, secure,
strong and self-sufficient as defined by Urban Dictionary." As we approach the holiday season, it is time
that you slow down and change things in your life.
I recently meet up with an old
acquaintance name anger. He was self righteous, defensive and cantankerous. His
justification for his negative attitude was that he was misunderstood. He
stressed that he could not get a break, everyone was out to get him. He cited problems at work, at home and even
in his social network. I quietly
listened to him for a while, and then I spoke softly. I suggested that he calm
down, talk slowly, think before he act. Then I continued: People
get angry for numerous reasons.
Hold fast to
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.
these challenging times, we must hold on to our dreams. We must hold on to possibilities of a better
day, a brighter tomorrow. Moreover,
never allow others to steal you ability to dream. The naysayers will discredit your
dreams. They will fill that space with
doubt and fear. To stay focus: Think it
and ink it!
It is almost Friday! Perhaps it was a week of deadlines, disappointments or surprises. It is time to relax, release and recharge. This weekend, do something fun. Lose yourself in child's play. If the weather permits, spend time outside. Go for a walk, smell the flowers, do some yard work or go fly a kite!
"Go fly a kite and tie your troubles to the tail
They'll be blown away by a merry gale,
Go fly a kite and toss your worries to the wind
Think Before You Speak: Words Can
Ugly, fatso, stupid, fag,
nappy, black, nerd, weird, bad, lazy, crybaby, dummy, loser,
moron, sissy, chicken, etc. What do these words have in common? They are small words, with big
implications. They hurt! Children were taught, “Sticks and stones may
break your bones but words will never hurt.” However,
they can surely break hearts. The truth
is, harsh and mean spirited words can be just as deadly to our self esteem as
weapons drawn against us.
A Smile is more than an
Upside Down Frown
Kirt Franklin song I SMILE is so uplifting. It speaks to adapting and working through our
situations. Our attitude is everything. So often we get stuck because we cannot see a
way out. We waddle in self pit and self doubt rather than shifting our position
and pulling our feet up; the first step to getting out of a sticky
situation. Secondly, we need to change
our (shoes) thinking. Thirdly, try a
different (shoe) strategy. Finally, We
Do not grieve, for I am not there, the poet
encourages us to not stand by our loved ones grave and grieve. However grieve we must. We grieve the loss of the person. We grieve
for the things they left undone. We
grieve for the glorious times we shared, then we grieve for ourselves.
Losing someone you love is very difficult. Often
times it opens up wounds that were scabbed over long ago, then past hurt and
pain comes rushing back to the surface and the wound is torn open like it