Stop! Think Before You Speak: Words Can Hurt
Ugly, fatso, stupid, fag, nappy, black, nerd, weird, bad, lazy, crybaby, dummy, loser, moron, sissy, chicken, etc. What do these words have in common? They are small words, with big implications. They hurt! Children were taught, “Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt.” However, they can surely break hearts. The truth is, harsh and mean spirited words can be just as deadly to our self esteem as weapons drawn against us.
According to scriptures, In Ephesians 4:19, Paul reminds us, it is okay to be angry, but don't sin--don't use damaging words, condemn or tear down someone's self-esteem. The sin doesn't lie in the expression of anger, but in the way we use it. We can choose to express anger in healthy or unhealthy ways--in ways that heal or hurt. There is a difference between getting angry and being an angry person. When the expression of anger dominates our life and personality we are no longer a person with anger, but an angry person.
Proverbs 12:18 says, "Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." Reckless words can rip the ones we love into pieces. Words that build up and are patient, kind, good, gentle and loving create peace.
James 3:2-12 says the human tongue can do so much damage. It can ruin friendships, cause misunderstandings and put a wall between brothers and sisters. We have all been guilty of saying hurtful things. We must be ever mindful that what we say can damage and cause divisions. Before speaking, remember; words can ruin. Words can damage; words can kill. Words can demolish reputations and destroy relationships.
Consequently, Stop! Think Before You Speak: Words Can Hurt. Below are a few suggestions to help you avoid saying something you might regret.
· Step back from the situation to help you to quiet your emotions.
Remember the Golden Rule: Do unto other as you will have others do unto you. Also as mom use to stay, "If you can't say anything good about a person, keep you mouth shut!"