Think Before You Speak: Words Can
Ugly, fatso, stupid, fag,
nappy, black, nerd, weird, bad, lazy, crybaby, dummy, loser,
moron, sissy, chicken, etc. What do these words have in common? They are small words, with big
implications. They hurt! Children were taught, “Sticks and stones may
break your bones but words will never hurt.” However,
they can surely break hearts. The truth
is, harsh and mean spirited words can be just as deadly to our self esteem as
weapons drawn against us.
Re-post from a year ago. I believe it is still relevant.
Healthy and Soulful in 2011
Hats off to a Healthy New Year!
An optimist stays up until midnight to see the New Year in. A
pessimist stays up to make sure the old year leaves. ~Bill Vaughan
“Keep the soul in your heart and the health in your life”
Soul food is tasty, simple, hearty, and rooted in tradition. Many soul
food recipes - succulent fried chicken, sweet potato pie, rich macaroni and
cheese, sloppy barbecue ribs and meats, and ham hock collard greens with pork
fat -- have been passed down over the generations and include cooking
ingredients that we know today are not healthy for us to eat in large
From Watch Night to New Years Day: Family Traditions, Tales and Togetherness
New Years Day is a forward looking event.
During weeks building up to New Year’s Eve, we take time to assess what
our year was like. Did we accomplish
goals set in 2010. Did we lose that
weight, kick that guy to the curb, sign up for some classes to make that career
more or what did we do? By New Years Day
we are optimistic. We feel empowered to
have a better year spiritually, economically, socially and or relationship
I had an epiphany today about lemons and lemonade. Often people are
encouraged to make the best of a bad situation; “Make lemonade out of lemons”
as the adage goes. Just accept that your choice is either to take the
lemons or make lemonade. Today I ask why? Why should I take
your lemons? Why should I drink the Kool-Aid? Moreover, why am I
soaking up your gravy when I do not like the bread or the sausage?
Furthermore, I might not even like lemonade, Kool-Aid or gravy.
A Smile is more than an
Upside Down Frown
Kirt Franklin song I SMILE is so uplifting. It speaks to adapting and working through our
situations. Our attitude is everything. So often we get stuck because we cannot see a
way out. We waddle in self pit and self doubt rather than shifting our position
and pulling our feet up; the first step to getting out of a sticky
situation. Secondly, we need to change
our (shoes) thinking. Thirdly, try a
different (shoe) strategy. Finally, We
Do not grieve, for I am not there, the poet
encourages us to not stand by our loved ones grave and grieve. However grieve we must. We grieve the loss of the person. We grieve
for the things they left undone. We
grieve for the glorious times we shared, then we grieve for ourselves.
Losing someone you love is very difficult. Often
times it opens up wounds that were scabbed over long ago, then past hurt and
pain comes rushing back to the surface and the wound is torn open like it
Friend or Foe?
I decided to search my name on the web and I was surprise about the
information that was out there. It is
giving me an opportunity to assess what I should keep in the public domain or
reserve some information for private/personal friends to see. Technology has created a means for people to
sit at home and be connected to millions of people with the click and send bottom. We can now share our feelings and frustrations
about family, friends, co-workers, relationships, and a night out with the
girls or guys, your imagination is the limit.
Coping with unemployment and the stress of it all
The unemployment rate is hanging around nine and a half percent. This figure is even higher in minority communities. It’s normal to feel scared, lost, depressed and anger after losing a job.The stress of job loss and
unemployment can take a toll on your health. It is important
to take care of yourself. It means looking after your physical
and emotional needs and managing your stress level. Helpguide.org listed several tips to managing a healthy lifestyle while looking for another job:
On this Father’s Day weekend, we
want to salute dads, fathers, step dads, and other men who influence children.
In this pop culture that tends to
trump traditional values, we are perplexed on every hand. Marriage and responsibility appears to be a
thing of the past. We are now into “self”
and doing things our way. Often times
not thinking what’s best for the children in our charge. We spend most of our
time trying to find ourselves. I suggest
you are not lost. Perhaps you are scared
of responsibility or failing your children.
Is there anything in your life that you want to change, improve or
eliminate? Are you doing anything about it or are you stuck on a nail?
One day a man was lost in the woods. He followed a straight path. As
he walked, which seemed like hours, he hear a strange noise. Curiosity got the
better of him so he followed the noise. He eventually came upon a shack and saw
an old man sitting on the porch rocking, off to the side; he noticed a dog and
discovered where the noise was coming from. He asked the man, "What’s
wrong with your dog?