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Sticks, Stones and Bones

Stop!  Think Before You Speak:  Words Can Hurt
Ugly, fatso, stupid, fag, nappy, black, nerd, weird, bad, lazy, crybaby, dummy, loser, moron, sissy, chicken, etc.  What do these words have in common?  They are small words, with big implications.  They hurt!  Children were taught, “Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt.” However, they can surely break hearts.  The truth is, harsh and mean spirited words can be just as deadly to our self esteem as weapons drawn against us.

To a Healthy 2012

Re-post from a year ago.  I believe it is still relevant.

Healthy and Soulful in 2011
byMinerva D. Freemanon Tuesday, December 28, 2010 at 8:18am

Hats off to a Healthy New Year!
An optimist stays up until midnight to see the New Year in.  A pessimist stays up to make sure the old year leaves. ~Bill Vaughan

“Keep the soul in your heart and the health in your life”
Soul food is tasty, simple, hearty, and rooted in tradition.  Many soul food recipes - succulent fried chicken, sweet potato pie, rich macaroni and cheese, sloppy barbecue ribs and meats, and ham hock collard greens with pork fat -- have been passed down over the generations and include cooking ingredients that we know today are not healthy for us to eat in large quantities.

From Watch Night to New Years Day: Family Traditions, Tales and Togetherness

From Watch Night to New Years Day:  Family Traditions, Tales and Togetherness

New Years Day is a forward looking event.  During weeks building up to New Year’s Eve, we take time to assess what our year was like.  Did we accomplish goals set in 2010.  Did we lose that weight, kick that guy to the curb, sign up for some classes to make that career more or what did we do?  By New Years Day we are optimistic.   We feel empowered to have a better year spiritually, economically, socially and or relationship wise.

When Life Gives You Lemons, Reject the Lemonade


I had an epiphany today about lemons and lemonade.  Often people are encouraged to make the best of a bad situation; “Make lemonade out of lemons” as the adage goes.  Just accept that your choice is either to take the lemons or make lemonade.  Today I ask why?  Why should I take your lemons?  Why should I drink the Kool-Aid?  Moreover, why am I soaking up your gravy when I do not like the bread or the sausage?  Furthermore, I might not even like lemonade, Kool-Aid or gravy.

SMILE is more than an Upside Frown

A Smile is more than an Upside Down Frown

Kirt Franklin song I SMILE is so uplifting.  It speaks to adapting and working through our situations.  Our attitude is everything.  So often we get stuck because we cannot see a way out. We waddle in self pit and self doubt rather than shifting our position and pulling our feet up; the first step to getting out of a sticky situation.  Secondly, we need to change our (shoes) thinking.  Thirdly, try a different (shoe) strategy.  Finally, We smile.

Coping with Grief

Coping with Grief
Do not grieve, for I am not there, the poet encourages us to not stand by our loved ones grave and grieve.  However grieve we must.  We grieve the loss of the person. We grieve for the things they left undone.   We grieve for the glorious times we shared, then we grieve for ourselves. 
Losing someone you love is very difficult. Often times it opens up wounds that were scabbed over long ago, then past hurt and pain comes rushing back to the surface and the wound is torn open like it happened yesterday.

Social Media: Friend or Foe?

Social Media:  Friend or Foe?
I decided to search my name on the web and I was surprise about the information that was out there.  It is giving me an opportunity to assess what I should keep in the public domain or reserve some information for private/personal friends to see.  Technology has created a means for people to sit at home and be connected to millions of people with the click and send bottom.  We can now share our feelings and frustrations about family, friends, co-workers, relationships, and a night out with the girls or guys, your imagination is the limit.

Coping with unemployment and the stress of it all

Coping with unemployment and the stress of it all

The unemployment rate is hanging around nine and a half percent.  This figure is even higher in minority communities. It’s normal to feel scared, lost, depressed and anger after losing a job.The stress of job loss and unemployment can take a toll on your health. It is important to take care of yourself. It means looking after your physical and emotional needs and managing your stress level.  Helpguide.org listed several tips to managing a healthy lifestyle while looking for another job: 

Happy Father Day

On this Father’s Day weekend, we want to salute dads, fathers, step dads, and other men who influence children. 
In this pop culture that tends to trump traditional values, we are perplexed on every hand.  Marriage and responsibility appears to be a thing of the past.  We are now into “self” and doing things our way.  Often times not thinking what’s best for the children in our charge. We spend most of our time trying to find ourselves.  I suggest you are not lost.  Perhaps you are scared of responsibility or failing your children.

Get off that Nail!

Is there anything in your life that you want to change, improve or eliminate? Are you doing anything about it or are you stuck on a nail?

One day a man was lost in the woods. He followed a straight path.  As he walked, which seemed like hours, he hear a strange noise. Curiosity got the better of him so he followed the noise. He eventually came upon a shack and saw an old man sitting on the porch rocking, off to the side; he noticed a dog and discovered where the noise was coming from.  He asked the man, "What’s wrong with your dog?