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|Posted on April 4, 2021 at 6:55 PM||comments ()|
RESPONDING AS A BYSTANDER
What’s worse than being targeted with harassment because of your race, sex, religion, color, gender, size, orientation, disability, age, or origin? Being targeted while surrounded by bystanders who see what is happening, but then do nothing.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
At this moment in history, we are witnessing a spike in disrespect, harassment, and hate violence. As bystanders, we need to be especially vigilant and aware of what disrespect, harassment, and hate violence look like in order to be able to stand up and intervene at a time when people need it most.
You can make a choice to actively and visibly take a stand against harassment. The Five D’s are different methods you can use to support someone who’s being harassed, emphasize that harassment is not okay, and demonstrate to people in your life that they too have the power to make our communities and workplaces safer.
|Posted on March 26, 2021 at 5:40 AM||comments ()|
As we close out Women History month, it is a time of reflections. It is a time to highlight the role of women and why it is important to have women at the table. Women bring a different perspective with regards to war and peace, and so forth.
Women’s voices and experiences are necessary.
The consistent lack of female representation across government agencies, negotiating tables, and panels of experts suggests that women’s participation is still undervalued. In reality, security and female participation are intertwined. In the world’s conflict zones, for example, women experience the indirect effects of war differently than men: poverty, disease, and the breakdown of law and order disproportionately impact women.
Research shows that women have access to different information and community networks than men do, giving them a unique perspective on a society’s problems and needs. But in spite of these realities, fewer than 20% of peace agreements from the last two decades referenced women at all!
- Women’s participation results in more peaceful, just, and prosperous societies.
The active involvement of women in peace and security decisions results in less war, fairer societies, and more profitable economies. Research shows that women broaden security agendas, including prioritizing key elements like education, healthcare, and access to basic necessities that might otherwise be overlooked.
Women’s social and political participation also reduces the risk of conflict: one study found that higher female political participation can reduce the risk of war breaking out as well as government-initiated political violence. As if that wasn’t enough to get more women involved in security decision making, research shows that communities are better off financially when women have more active roles in society.
- Women have deep history and expertise in peace and security issues (and are leading the way now!).
Women’s peace activism has a long history, but one of the first international efforts took place over 100 years ago in 1915 when more than 1,200 women from around the world gathered at The Hague. The International Congress of Women gathered to talk about how they could advocate for peace and end World War I. Since then, women’s groups like Women Strike for Peace and Women’s Action for New Directions have organized and educated women from all over the world to advocate for a more just and peaceful world. Women have led the charge toward peace over the past several decades, creating cultural and policy change in multiple areas; from increasing women’s participation in peace processes to reducing the risk of nuclear war.
The evidence is abundant: empowered and engaged women are key to creating a productive and peaceful society. Reflecting on the facts makes women’s leadership and participation an obvious priority. Though we only covered five important reasons why women should be at the table where decisions are made, there are clearly many more. When it comes to peace and security, leveraging the skills and perspectives of women is not just the right thing to do, it’s the smart thing to do. What will you do to put women at the tables of power?
- The table should reflect the society it represents.
Decisions that determine the future course of a community, region, or country should be made by the people it will effect. Guess what? That includes women. Women make up 49.6% of the world population; they are involved at every level of society, and yet are rarely included at the tables where decisions are made. For example, women made up only 2% of mediators in peace agreements over the past 18 years. Research shows that groups that mirror the communities they represent are more productive and successful. Without the representation and active participation of women, security decisions will not be truly comprehensive and are less likely to last.
- Diversity advances change and innovation.
Women — all women, especially women from diverse and marginalized communities — bring unique perspectives to the table that help make security decisions that are more informed and nuanced. Strong national security comes from anticipating a variety of threats, and a team that is inclusive and diverse is better positioned to identify a broad range of scenarios.
Research shows that diverse organizations achieve greater innovation and group performance — in fact, diverse groups often outperform experts! Another study demonstrates that high gender and racial diversity improves decision making and fosters creativity. Diverse groups are better able to respond to challenges and change. When it comes to national security, diversity must be a priority. Shifting away from national security decision makers who are homogeneous in appearance and opinion will help develop strong, collective security policy.
|Posted on March 19, 2021 at 9:25 AM||comments ()|
In honor of bold WOMEN, we celebrate voices of all types. Women's History Month is a celebration of women's contributions to history, culture and society and has been observed annually in the month of March in the United States since 1987. Happy Women History Month.
|Posted on March 8, 2021 at 5:40 PM||comments ()|
We salute women and girls today on International Women's Day.
Work hard, own your voice, stand up for what you believe it and persist!
|Posted on February 17, 2021 at 1:20 PM||comments ()|
The strategies are life changing.
Sean H developed them, and I want to share them with my readership.
1. In chess, every move has a purpose. Life obviously cannot be lived with this much unceasing calculation, nor should we want to live it that way, but there are times when we must align our actions with a predetermined strategy, instead of bumbling through it.
2. Play for the advantage. If you already have it, maintain it. If you don’t have it, seize it.
3. Everyone’s playing. Sometimes it’s a friendly, often it is more serious. The problem is that not everyone knows they’re playing – even after they have made a move.
4. Seize the initiative. If you wait around for someone else to make a decision for you, they will… and you probably won’t like how it turns out.
5. Learn to spot patterns. There are often clearly defined lines of success that work well. Learn to see these when they repeat and take advantage of them.
6. Don’t get stuck on the formula. A little bit of creativity and lateral thinking can often take you to new heights.
7. Ignore what your opponent is trying to do at your own peril. We often get so absorbed in our own games and machinations that we ignore what is going on around us. Be aware of threats and alert to opportunities.
9. If you only play patzers, you never really improve – take on a few tough challenges, and even if you lose, try to learn something new.
10. Cut your losses. Sometimes you are going to lose material. Try to minimize your losses and move on.
11. Play the board, not the player. Don’t target your responses at people, target what they say and do. There is a difference.
12. Sometimes you get stuck in a position known in chess as zugzwang: where whichever move you make is a bad one. This is just the way it goes sometimes, in chess and in life.
13. There is nothing more satisfying than a discovered attack: Pretending to do one thing while attacking somewhere else. Learn to play and live less obviously and on more levels. This makes you less predictable and more interesting.
14. Be prepared to sacrifice material for position. Sometimes even the greatest material sacrifice can result in a winning position later on.
15. If you spend all of your time chasing lowly pawns, you may be on the receiving end of an opponent who cares less about small victories and more about winning the war.
16. A threat is best met with a move that improves your own position. Don’t get trapped into mindlessly trading moves and material in anger. Sometimes the solution is gentler and more cerebral.
17. You don’t have to be a devious swindler to win… you just have to be better.
18. We all blunder from time to time. This does not mean we should give up and run away. Often when you’re sure there is no way out after a bad mistake, you will be given a lifeline.
19. When someone makes a move that you cannot understand, don’t read more into it than you need to. Sometimes people just make silly moves – that’s all there is to it.
20. Have a Plan B. And a Plan C. If none of those work, you’re probably doomed.
21. Play for the middle. Don’t hold back too much, and don’t push through too early. Your opportunity will come.
22. How you start a game determines how you will finish it. Play wisely.
23. If an opening appears, seize it immediately.
24. Don’t get pinned down. Where something more cherished cannot be brought into play because it is stuck behind something trivial, make every effort to get it into the game – as soon as possible.
25. In the endgame, attack the King by focusing your attention on his escape squares: When you are in the final stretch, and about to win, anticipate what could go wrong and plan accordingly.
26. Be flexible. It seldom goes the way you planned – adjust and continue.
27. If you are feeling boxed-in, free things up.
28. Where possible, trade inferior material and positions for better ones.
29. The little guys on your side matter. Look after them.
30. Accumulate small advantages.
31. There are no foregone conclusions in life or in chess.
32. Ignore meaningless threats. Anticipate and deal with dangerous ones swiftly.
33. Never rest on your laurels. Keep thinking, looking for new opportunities and trying to generate new ideas.
34. Don’t be overly impressed with lofty words or titles. The only thing worse than being overly diffident towards those who outrank you is being dismissive of those inferior to you.
35. Keep calm and move slowly.
36. Replace wishful thinking with action.
37. If you lose, do so graciously and try to learn at least one important lesson.
38. Sometimes a draw is as good as a win. But a draw is always better than a loss.
39. Keep your options open and always have an escape route.
40. Surprise and impress people with unconventional moves. But not with dumb ones. Creativity always has a purpose – doing something wild and crazy just for the sake of it may be fun at the time, but ultimately has no value. Break the rules – but only if it serves a good purpose.
41. Appraise your position honestly. If it is bad, do something about it – if it is good, make it even better.
42. Don’t get swept up by distractions.
43. Narrow down your choices. And then decide. Take your time but settle on one plan of action… and then do it!
44. Sometimes you have to sacrifice in order to achieve a break-through.
45. Always consider the whole board when deciding on a move: decisions made with too narrow a focus are often bad.
46. Connect your pieces cleverly. Collaboration and cooperation are the keys to success.
47. Look beyond the obvious.
48. Enjoy yourself.
49. Deep and meaningful is always better than superficially pretty.
50. If all else fails… fake it.