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Coping with Grief

Coping with Grief
Do not grieve, for I am not there, the poet encourages us to not stand by our loved ones grave and grieve.  However grieve we must.  We grieve the loss of the person. We grieve for the things they left undone.   We grieve for the glorious times we shared, then we grieve for ourselves. 
Losing someone you love is very difficult. Often times it opens up wounds that were scabbed over long ago, then past hurt and pain comes rushing back to the surface and the wound is torn open like it happened yesterday.  Why was this sore not dealt with?  In some cultures, the rule is to say nothing, hold your piece, just get through this period and all will be well.  Unfortunately, it does not work.   It is as important to go through pain as it is the joys of life.  While grief is a personal experience, unique to each family member and unique to the loss of a parent, a sibling, a child, or extended family members, each person must find their own coping strategies.  The following strategies provide a few suggestions to help you ride out the emotional waves as you cope with your grief.
Coping with grief and loss:
Helpguide.org. provides some great tips to help you ride out your storm.  First and for most, take care of yourself.  The stress of a major loss can quickly deplete your energy and emotional reserves. Looking after your physical and emotional needs will help you get through this difficult time.
  • Face your feelings. You can try to suppress your grief, but you can’t avoid it forever. In order to heal, you have to acknowledge the pain. Trying to avoid feelings of sadness and loss only prolongs the grieving process. Unresolved grief can also lead to complications such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and health problems.
  • Express your feelings in a tangible or creative way. Write about your loss in a journal. If you’ve lost a loved one, write a letter saying the things you never got to say; make a scrapbook or photo album celebrating the person’s life; or get involved in a cause or organization that was important to him or her.
  • Look after your physical health. The mind and body are connected. When you feel good physically, you’ll also feel better emotionally. Combat stress and fatigue by getting enough sleep, eating right, and exercising. Don’t use alcohol or drugs to numb the pain of grief or lift your mood artificially.
  • Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel, and don’t tell yourself how to feel either. Your grief is your own, and no one else can tell you when it’s time to “move on” or “get over it.” It’s okay to be angry, to cry or not to cry. It’s also okay to laugh, to find moments of joy, and to let go when you’re ready.
  • Plan ahead for grief “triggers.” Anniversaries, holidays, and milestones can reawaken memories and feelings.
  • Turn to friends and family members – Now is the time to lean on the people who care about you, even if you take pride in being strong and self-sufficient. Draw loved ones close, rather than avoiding them, and accept the assistance that’s offered.
  • Draw comfort from your faith – If you follow a religious tradition, embrace the comfort its mourning rituals can provide. Spiritual activities that are meaningful to you – such as praying, meditating, or going to church – can offer solace.


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